Sep 23

The power of mindful empathy to heal toxic shame

Sep 13

A question that has long fascinated social commentators has been: why do women become sex workers? Traditional explanations have typically been highly individualistic in nature. Lombroso and Ferrero (1895), for example, focussed on prostitutes as “primitive” atavistic throw-backs, while other theorists subsequently viewed involvement in prostitution as indicative of some form of underlying pathology. Hence a range of psychoanalytic theories were developed to explain women’s entry into prostitution, portraying them as mentally abnormal women who were fearful or incapable of ‘normal’ sexual intimacy. Thus sex workers have variously been described as over-sexed (e.g., Bishop, 1931; Gibbens, 1957; Glueck and Glueck, 1934; Thomas, 1923), frigid (Ellis, 1936), homosexual (Greenwald, 1958; Gibbens, 1957), or motivated by the desire to seek revenge on men (e.g., Rolph, 1955. Also Gibbens, 1957, who in his study of juvenile prostitution named this desire the ‘Circe complex’ - i.e., the wish to turn men into swine). Such accounts were typical of male writers in this area who generally sought to locate the basis of a woman’s involvement in sex work in either her sexuality or her relationships with men.

… “As part of an Australian study conducted by Roberta Perkins (1991), the author asked groups of non-prostituting health workers and students why they thought prostitutes would enter sex work. The non-prostitute sample imagined drug-taking and economic imperatives to be the most common reasons, and assumed control by pimps and a background in juvenile delinquency to be amongst the other principal factors. The 128 sex workers whom Perkins interviewed provided alternative explanations. Neither drug addiction nor pimp manipulation featured highly in their accounts, with economic factors being the most influential and compelling.” … “Suggestions of an economic basis to involvement in prostitution were either viewed as secondary to sexual cravings, or completely ignored. For example, in the United Kingdom the 1957 Wolfenden Committee Report on Homosexual Offences and Prostitution asserted: …we believe that whatever may have been the case in the past, in these days, in this country at any rate, economic factors cannot account for it to any large or decisive extent… Our impression is that the great majority of prostitutes are women whose psychological make-up is such that they choose this life because they find it a style of living which is to them easier, freer and more profitable than would be provided by any other occupation. (quoted in Cheney, 1988, 241). New Zealand commentator Belinda Cheney drew attention to the flawed assumptions underlying the Committee’s reasoning, noting amongst these that: It assumes that prostitutes must be deranged to seek an easy, free and profitable life when the doors are open to a harder, controlled and profitless life as a factory worker, shop assistant or perhaps wife and mother. (Cheney, 1988, 241).”

Sep 12


“I have to make 500 million dollars first,” she says. “That figure has been in my brain for a long time. I want to be the female who earned the same amount of money that the Jay Zs and the Puffys were able to earn. I feel like when I reach my 500-million-dollar goal” – she pauses to cackle at the Monopoly-money sum, teeth bared – “then no other woman in rap will ever feel like they can’t do what these men have done.””

Sep 11

"In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients were revealing childhood [sexual] victimization to him. Freud concluded that child sexual abuse was one of the major causes of emotional disturbances in adult women and wrote a brilliant and humane paper called “The Aetiology of Hysteria.” However, rather than receiving acclaim from his colleagues for his ground-breaking insights, Freud met with scorn. He was ridiculed for believing that men of excellent reputation (most of his patients came from upstanding homes) could be perpetrators of incest.
Within a few years, Freud buckled under this heavy pressure and recanted his conclusions. In their place he proposed the “Oedipus complex,” which became the foundation of modern psychology… Freud used this construct to conclude that the episodes of abuse his clients had revealed to him had never taken place; they were simply fantasies of events the women had wished for… This construct started a hundred-year history in the mental health field of blaming victims for the abuse perpetrated on them and outright discrediting of women’s and children’s reports of mistreatment by men.”
― Lundy Bancroft

Sep 08

Another (Much Higher) Count Of Homicides By Police | FiveThirtyEight

“‘A space where nothing is at stake’ - the true meaning of ‘safe space’ in contemporary anarcho subcultures.”

Sep 07

"The terror of being judged sharpens the memory: it sends an inevitable glare over that long-unvisited past which has been habitually recalled only in general phrases. Even without memory, the life is bound into one by a zone of dependence in growth and decay; but intense memory forces a man to own his blameworthy past. With memory set smarting like a reopened wound, a man’s past is not simply a dead history, an outworn preparation of the present: it is not a repented error shaken loose from the life: it is a still quivering part of himself, bringing shudders and bitter flavors and the tinglings of a merited shame." ― George Eliot

Sep 06

Children's strikes in 1911 - Dave Marson







there seems to be a MASSIVE contradiction in the logic of being pro-porn and being against leaking celebrity nude photos. Porn literally thrives on stolen private material and invasion of privacy (hidden cams) and its distribution. Porn sites have been waiting for high profile photo leaks such as jennifer lawrence and other celebrities. why? to generate internet traffic to their sites and raise advertisement revenue to make money.

Why would a company do something so blatantly illegal and risk getting shut down when they could, I don’t know, shoot porn?

I don’t know who told you how the porn industry works, but they lied.

it’s so nice to see that the OP has done such extensive research into the ecosystem that is the porn industry, to arrive at the nuanced understanding that “xhamster is all of porn. all of it.” and they say the kids these days don’t read!

do you liberals ever question the society you are living in? do you ever question the worldwide male demand for female flesh? or do you console yourself that as long as you’re making an individual choice it can’t possibly be an overall exploitative institution?

tell me after all this that the porn industry is empowering or even decent

don’t give me that #notallporn shit. idk y’all are content with your liberal patriarchy

"liberals," oh dear. look, i’m not saying you should read someone’s entire tumblr oeuvre before namecalling, but even a cursory glance at my or Lori’s (especially Lori’s, really) blog would’ve clued you in massively here. alas.

anyway. No, I will not tell you the porn industry is empowering. I don’t think the porn industry is empowering, and more importantly, I don’t care. The question of “empowerment” in liberal or radical feminist analysis is totally irrelevant — empowerment is a private, internal state of being, comparable to “feeling peppy” or “feeling blue”, and fought over so enthusiastically by lib- and rad-fems alike because it’s a convenient way to keep the focus on the sexual expression of the most privileged men and women (whether to laud them or villainize them), and away from talking about the economic realities of sexual labor and its trade and exploitation. Both you and your, in this case, imagined, opponent are so excited to talk about sex (because, goodness, do you radfems just love your MASSES of prurient, titillating horror porn in a way that never ceases to creep me right the fuck out) that you totally fail to talk about labor, which leads you, in this specific instance, to a laughably ridiculous conflation of parasitic streaming sites that benefit from stolen celebrity nudes and the actual producers of porn who (regardless of their ethics or lack thereof) do not, especially. 

If you want to talk about the “decency” or lack thereof of the porn industry, be my guest, i will totally do my best to have that discussion with you, and refer you to folks who can do it better than i can, but maybe try to do, like, maybe a tiny bit of research from reliable sources first? would you like some reading material recommendations? i am more than happy to help!

leighlanna you’re a gem

i really wonder how much SWERFY McWhorephobe cares about women who’ve had nudes leaked, cam performers who’ve had material stolen and distributed without their consent or really tbh anyone who’s been victimized in this way?? i’m guessing not at all and their “concern” is yet another way to exploit the suffering of other women for their own agenda sigh

(via nightmaremoan)